Love in balance feels better.
The Art of Interdependence
When we embody interdependence, we build thriving relationships.
Trauma (and society) teaches us so many extremes about relationships:
“A romantic partner will complete you. Do whatever it takes to get them to stay.”
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“You don’t need anyone or anything. All you need is yourself to be happy.”
But nature teaches us something else...
That it is normal, natural, and healthy to depend on others…
And we don’t have to compromise our integrity or sacrifice ourselves to be in a loving relationship.
Trauma teaches us to approach life in extremes to help us survive.
Independence presents us with a more balanced, sustainable, and joyfuloption.
I created The Art of Interdependence to help you shift away from codependent patterns like over-giving, excessive care-taking, people-pleasing, and fawning,
without becoming avoidant, isolated, or hyper-independent.
Imagine for a moment…
You prioritized your own needs while still caring deeply for others, feeling energized and balanced in your relationships instead of living in a mode of perpetual self-sacrifice.
You trusted yourself to set healthy boundaries, confidently speaking up when needed instead of letting people walk all over you.
You embraced expressing your truth, knowing that real connections grow when both people are heard.
You found a balance between giving and protecting your energy instead of overextending yourself to avoid abandonment.
You cultivated the deep, secure relationships you've always desired, knowing how to nurture them with care and authenticity.
That’s what I’m here to help you achieve.
Codependency gets a bad rap in our world these days.
Just so you know who you’re talking to - I’m a survivor of an abusive relationship who has resonated acutely with codependent patterns.
I used to believe that the abusive and toxic relationships I endured were my fault because of my codependent behaviors. I thought that if I had been more independent or assertive, things might have turned out better. Over time, I’ve learned that abuse, including emotional abuse, is never the victim’s fault. The responsibility for the abuse lies with the abuser.
AND, I've also realized that while it’s not our fault, we can still take responsibility for our own healing by addressing our codependent patterns (with compassion and care). By recognizing behaviors like people-pleasing, fawning, lack of boundaries, and unclear communication, we can choose to move toward interdependence, creating healthier, more balanced relationships where both people support each other in a way that’s nurturing and respectful.
At one point in my healing journey, I also thought relationships required me to be fiercely independent and detached, never needing anyone. But I know now that’s not true either. As humans, we are built to connect with others. The goal is not to be codependent or hyper-independent but to find a healthy middle ground.
Why I Made This Course
A lot of what is presented to us in the media about relationships glamorizes dysfunctional dynamics such as codependency, possession, dramatic highs and lows, and chasing after emotionally unavailable people.
I believe this does a disservice to all of us, but especially to those who have experienced toxic and abusive relationships. Through intense pain and fear, we may have learned that we must be pleasing just to have our basic needs met or to experience even the smallest amount of connection.
Through this process, we get used to settling for scraps of love and care in response to giving relationships our all. We become used to taking on the role of the caretaker, rather than partner. And even after leaving a toxic relationship, we may struggle to break free from the patterns that once kept us safe, but no longer serve us.
I know this because I have been there. I wish I had the support I needed all those years ago when I was ready for change, when I longed for healthy relationships that allowed me to be my authentic self. And that, right there, is why I created this course.
By the end of this program, you will know how to…
✅ Set and maintain healthy boundaries (even if guilt is showing up)
✅ Make peace with the parts of you that crave chaos, while leaning into self-worth that leads to healthier relationship dynamics
✅ Trust your gut feelings and say yes/no with clarity (instead of constantly accommodating others’ needs)
✅ Express your needs, wants, and feelings (even if it’s scary - that’s okay!)
✅ Cultivate secure relationship habits and break old patterns (cycle breakers, let’s go)
✅ Build a robust support system beyond one person (because we need a web of community)
✅ Shift into an abundance mindset, knowing you are enough (so you aren’t chasing someone to complete you)
This course is a blend of trauma-informed education, embodiment practices, practical skills, and COMMUNITY that will help you transform how you relate to yourself and others, moving away from codependent strategies and moving towards interdependence.
What’s Included in The Art of Interdependence?
Learn, connect, reflect, and grow in a supportive group container.
6 Live Course Modules: Delivered live over 6 weeks beginning July 15th. All live calls will be recorded to watch on your schedule. Calls will include course material presented by Emmy, a somatic practice, and dedicated time for student questions and group discussions. Calls should run about 90-120 minutes, depending on group size.
6 Comprehensive Workbooks: Each module includes a detailed workbook, featuring powerful healing exercises and journal prompts to help you reflect, process, and integrate the material.
Lifetime access to all materials so you can watch them again and again!
What students have said about my past relationships course:
The main ways this course helped me are…
“It helped me to understand my body and how trauma has played a part in the way I have responded and lived in life leading up to this point.”
My main takeaways from the course were…
“Using discernment and spotting red flags, understanding attachment styles, strategies to heal, how to communicate and set healthy boundaries.”
My favorite part of the course was…
“The lessons. You have a very nurturing tone and the content was so helpful.”
Read more testimonials below!
What's Covered In The Art of Interdependence?
Module 1: Foundations of Interdependence
You’ll gain clarity on why you’ve felt stuck in either over-giving and/or hyper-independence and why neither has brought the sense of connection or security you’ve been looking for. We’ll explore how your nervous system, attachment history, and past experiences have shaped your relationship patterns, giving you the clarity to start shifting them.
Module 2: Reclaiming Self-Worth & Authenticity
Instead of chasing self-worth like it’s something you have to earn, you'll start rooting into it as a practice: one that doesn’t rely on external validation. You’ll begin to poke holes in the scripts and expectations that have shaped you, and step into making decisions that actually align with who you are.
Module 3: Emotional Sovereignty & Healthy Boundaries
You'll start to see anger as a powerful, necessary force, not something to suppress or fear. We'll explore why conflict feels so scary, how to navigate it without losing yourself, and how to express your emotions and truth without overwhelming your nervous system. From there, you'll stop seeing boundaries as cold or harsh and start feeling the deep self-trust that comes from knowing your own limits, including how to set them in a way that feels safe enough, and how to feel your "yes" and "no" in your body.
Module 4: Secure Relationship Habits & Communication
You’ll get a clear picture of what actual secure relationships look like, without the pressure to get it all right. You’ll learn how to communicate your needs and limits in a way that builds connection, rather than stress, and explore what interdependence looks like in friendships, partnerships, and community.
Module 5: Finding Healthy Control and Letting People Be Who They Are
You'll start recognizing the moments when you’re trying to manage relationships for safety, and what to do instead. We’ll explore how to hold space for people without fixing or rescuing, and how to sit with the discomfort of other people’s emotions without taking them on as your own.
Module 6: Expanding Your Support System & Integration
You'll start shifting out of scarcity mode in relationships: moving away from fear of loss, rejection, or abandonment, and into a mindset that allows for abundant connections. We'll explore the power of a wider support system, plus ways to cultivate emotional resilience and self-sufficiency without feeling isolated. We'll tackle real-life challenges so you leave feeling solid, supported, and ready to live this work. We will close our time together with reflection and connection.
When does it start?
Our first call will take place on July 15th at 4 pm PDT via Zoom. We will meet every week for a total of 6 live sessions, ending on August 19th. All calls will be recorded and available to watch on your schedule, so don’t worry if you can’t make it live!
All materials can be accessed on a smartphone, computer, or tablet. Live calls will be hosted on Zoom.
Each call will include course material presented by Emmy, a somatic practice, and time for questions and group discussion of each week’s content.
Student Testimonials
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Student Testimonials •
Over 500 students have enrolled in my now-retired course, Blooming Relationships, since 2020.
The following testimonials were written by students of Blooming Relationships and are shared with permission:
“As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I was incredibly nervous to enter into another romantic relationship. At one point, I thought I would never trust another human again… I couldn’t even trust myself. BRC gave me a framework to apply to my relationships that made me feel safe. It helped me trust myself first, then learn to trust others when they prove that they are trustworthy. BRC helped me take back my power! If you’ve been through trauma and are struggling with relationships, or just want to learn how to form a deeper connection with loved ones, TAKE THIS COURSE! Emmy is incredible. You won’t be disappointed! ”
-Alexis F.
“Emmy, this course changed my relationships forever. All of them. My friendships, my romantic relationships, even relationships with families. I didn’t realize how touched all my relationships were by trauma and hardship. I had no idea all the ways I was judging myself for my own involuntary emotional reactions. I didn’t know how much I needed this course until I was in it. I feel healthier and kinder and freer because of your kind and insightful and patient teaching and all I can say is, thank you.”
-Anonymous Course Student
I am finding Blooming Relationships to be a necessary part of my healing journey. This program takes a deep dive into relationship trauma and healing that complements my weekly therapy sessions really well. I'm learning so much from Emmy and having aha moments throughout the course that I wish I'd had a long time ago. I found the live group calls to be incredibly invaluable. I learned so much through everyone's shares and felt very connected to everyone in the group. After starting the course, I realized I wasn't quite ready to go through it all at once, so I appreciate the self-paced format so that I could take my time. I LOVE the workbooks! There's so much high-quality content in this course that I don't want to forget, so being able to print the workbooks ensures I can revisit the material in the future. The workbooks are very well-made and helpful both for reference and for working through the concepts. This course is really helping me to acknowledge and work through all my fears about new relationships, as well as giving me the opportunity to learn what healthy relationships and communication look like - something I didn't learn growing up or in past relationships. I highly recommend this course. Emmy is so knowledgeable and personable and is the perfect gentle and reassuring voice to encourage you on your healing journey.
-E.B.
“The Blooming Relationships course helped me to recognize the many ways trauma has impacted and shaped my way of thinking, and my behaviours in relationships. It provided me with the language to finally verbalize the thoughts and feelings I had been experiencing. Most importantly, the course gave me the tools to address and respond to these issues and emotions. As well as a community of support. I really enjoyed learning about attachment styles and understanding how I relate to others. The polyvagal theory was another favourite aspect of mine. So interesting and applicable to everyday life. Partnered with attachment styles, I really got a better understanding of myself. I also enjoyed the community aspect and group calls. So nice and supportive hearing from others who have similar experiences.”
-Laura F.
“Emmy has been an absolute rock for my trauma recovery. She taught me how to find compassion for myself rather than be stuck in the constant repeating cycle of shame. Her framework has been the foundation of my healing and trauma recovery. The internal and external have both dramatically shifted. I feel excited for life again. I am able to sooth myself when triggers arise. And most importantly, the relationship with myself has become peaceful.
Forever grateful for the work we have done together.”
-Coco
“Learning more about the polyvagal theory and factual evidence of trauma was life-changing. Emmy does this beautifully! Finally having the words for certain experiences I didn’t have the words for has given me so much more clarity and ease in my healing process. My self-compassion has increased so much since I began the course! I owe part of that to Emmy and your shame-free approach. The self-talk I’m having these days is so much healthier and honest!”
-Lorraine G.
“[During the Blooming Relationships Course,] I re-wrote some shame stories that had been holding me back for years. In general, reducing the hold that shame had on me was the biggest impact. I had read and followed different sources of trauma education and was able to take what I knew on an intellectual level and actually “download” it and feel that it was true. It was so refreshing to have a nonjudgmental approach when the reigning (although changing) narrative is just that you are only struggling because you are codependent (a label that feels like a static, unchangeable character trait). The perspective around shame was similarly groundbreaking for me. It made me realize how insidious it is. I was also grateful that you included societal sources of trauma IE racism etc bc the wellness industry can be so gaslighty and spiritual bypassy.”
-Justine B.
“The Blooming Relationships Course allowed me to finally understand that the symptoms I kept showing were as a consequence of my trauma experience, that I wasn’t ‘broken’ but on the contrary it was just my body doing its best to survive. It felt good knowing I wasn’t alone. [I liked] the way it was structured, it was easy to follow and complete.”
-Liz E
This course helped me in so many ways! Primarily putting words to feelings and experiences that have overwhelmed and troubled me for so long. I feel that with a better understanding of my problems, I can better address them and find solutions that work for me. I also appreciated Emmy as the course leader, your gentle nature and willingness to share your own personal experiences made this course personable, approachable, and safe!
-Victoria A.
"I wanted to explore how my recently discovered trauma from my past might be affecting my romantic relationships. I learned to define a lot of things for myself that were fuzzy before. Like clearing up I have a mixed attachment style with multiple roots for why. Also understanding that my trust issues with others is more pronounced than I had realized. And learning better to integrate parts of myself and allow multiple feelings to exist around one event."
-Lisa K.
“This course has helped me in that I am become more open to feeling my emotions. I no longer judge myself for feeling them. I am more aware of myself when I don’t express myself well so now I’m more likely to catch myself and elaborate on what I am trying to say. My main takeaways were allowing myself to feel and to implement boundaries.“
-Anonymous Course Student
“Emmy, Thank you so much for this course. I think you were sent to all of us for a reason to help us learn, grow and heal from whatever trauma we went/are going through. I will never forget this program and so appreciative for you and your tools to navigate through this crazy life. I have been way more mindful with my words/actions/not living in the past because of your course. Thank you for being vulnerable with us and listening without judgement.”
-Jess P
“I love your course! It’s so helpful!! I’m still listening! And will need to listen to it a lot of times!! I love the worksheets and I love to look at the trauma not as something to overcome but a lifetime journey to heal…thank you!! Glad I found you and that you were so caring and willing to help!!!”
– Elle E.
Course Registration
Group begins on July 15th.
I provide sliding-scale pricing for those who want to join The Art of Interdependence but face financial or systemic barriers.
If you think this course would support you and cannot afford the full rate, please enroll at the sliding scale rate, no questions asked.
Please note that all sales are final and refunds will not be given due to the digital nature of the course.
If you'd like to pay with PayPal or Venmo instead, please email me @ bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com
$400
Full Price
Sign up for the course for the full price of $400 or $100/month for 4 months.
$250
Sliding Scale Rate
Sign up for the course for $250 or
$62.50/month for 4 months.
I am a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach, Somatic Practitioner, writer, speaker, and educator. As a survivor of an abusive relationship that left me with complex PTSD as a young adult, I have a wealth of knowledge and lived experience that informs my work.
I know when I was recovering from my abusive relationship, I felt like no one in the world understood what I was going through. It took time, dedication, and so much research to eventually realize that everything I was experiencing was not due to a flaw in my character or willpower, but due to the residual trauma my body had carried. I consider it my mission in life to make this information and post-traumatic growth methodology accessible to as many people as possible. I made this course for all survivors (and others who relate) who want to understand what a healthy relationship is, and know that they can be a part of one, without being shamed for who they are or where they’ve been. Your past trauma does not define your future.
About Emmy
Training and Qualifications
In addition to the lived experience of surviving and healing from an abusive relationship, I am certified as a Trauma Informed Coach through an ICF-accredited program provided by the organization Moving the Human Spirit.
I am a certified Level 1 NARM Practitioner. NARM is a modality for working with complex trauma.
I have a Somatic Attachment Therapy Certificate from The Embody Lab and have received somatic mentorship from them since March 2023.
I have completed the level one Parts Work training from Fran Booth and The Embody Lab.
I also have training in Sex, Desire, and Relationship Issues from leading sex experts Emily Nagoski, PhD and Tammy Nelson, PhD.
Since 2020, over 700 people have taken my courses on topics such as relationships and reconnecting with your authentic self post-trauma.
I’ve accrued 1000s of hours in 1:1 and group coaching.
What you can expect from joining the Art of Interdependence…
This course is here to demystify the experience of creating secure relationships and leave you feeling informed, capable, and ready to be an equal part of a healthy relationship, even if you’re still healing from trauma or struggle with codependent patterns.
This course is not…
A substitute for psychotherapy (although it can go well alongside therapy!)
A magical cure that will make you instantly have amazing relationships (sorry, doesn’t exist.)
A way of being diagnosed with any mental illness.
This course is…
A guide for how to have supportive, balanced relationships after trauma, no matter what you’ve been through, presented through video, audio, and written formats.
A way to connect with Emmy & other like-minded people who are facing some of the same obstacles as you and have your questions answered. Community can be so helpful when doing this work.
A series of practices and tools to help you become rooted in interdependence – within and outside of romantic relationships.
A resource you can access forever, so there’s no rush or pressure to go any faster than you and your schedule have the capacity for.
Everything I’ve learned that has helped me break the cycle of trauma and go from a depressed, anxious, codependent victim to an empowered, confident, and happy partner.
This ain’t my first rodeo.
Here’s what folks have said about my last course, Blooming Relationships:
My Intentions & Approach
This course is rooted in a trauma-informed approach.
As a trauma survivor myself as well as a trauma-trained practitioner, the practice of being “trauma-informed” is incredibly important to me.
This means that this course is rooted in…
Trauma theory. There are a LOT of relationship books, courses, and podcasts out there. This one is different because it’s specifically created with trauma survivors in mind. Utilizing my training as a coach and practitioner, I share trauma-informed education to help you better understand your body, mind, nervous system, and relationships. Knowledge is power, and I strive to explain psychoeducation in a way that is accessible and easy to understand.
Compassion. Instead of viewing your past or present self with shame, you’ll be encouraged to bring curiosity and compassion to your wounds and present-day behaviors. This helps create a feeling of safety within the body that supports the healing process. You will never be shamed for who you are; in fact, you’ll be encouraged to see the beauty and goodness within yourself, even if you aren’t perfect.
Consent and Autonomy: This course is both live and recorded for a reason. It allows you to access material at a time and pace that works for you, whether that's present with the live group, or on your own schedule. You’ll be able to say no or walk away if anything feels too triggering in the moment. You’ll be able to apply what you’re learning to your life instead of needing to fit into a mold to achieve the results you want. In live calls, you’ll be able to participate in a way that works for you- camera on or off, watching the replay, or being there live.
Authenticity and Integrity: I’ve experienced profound shifts when I stop pretending to be someone I’m not, and I have a feeling you might do the same. I think, as trauma survivors, we are encouraged to spend so much time masking and pretending to be okay when we’re not. I find this damaging and unproductive. Throughout this course, you’ll be encouraged to find ways to accommodate your needs and approach relationships in a way that actually works for you.
Course Registration
Group begins on July 15th.
I provide sliding-scale pricing for those who want to join The Art of Interdependence but face financial or systemic barriers.
If you think this course would support you and cannot afford the full rate, please enroll at the sliding scale rate, no questions asked.
Please note that all sales are final and refunds will not be given due to the digital nature of the course.
If you'd like to pay with PayPal or Venmo instead, please email me @ bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com
$400
Full Price
Sign up for the course for the full price of $400 or $100/month for 4 months.
$250
Sliding Scale Rate
Sign up for the course for $250 or
$62.50/month for 4 months.
We begin July 15th!
If this feels like a "YES" to you, I'd love to see you inside The Art of Interdependence.
Our group begins on July 15th.
Have any questions or want to make sure it's a good fit for you? Check out the FAQ below, and feel free to email me at bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com - I'm happy to help!
Frequently Asked Questions
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Frequently Asked Questions ○
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Absolutely not! I made this course to help you feel prepared and equipped to embody interdependence in your relationships, whether you’re in one now or not. This would be beneficial for single people looking to create better relationships in the future, people who are currently dating and want to make sure they’re equipped with the knowledge to feel safe and empowered in relationships moving forward, or those in long term relationships who want to strengthen and grow as a partnership.
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This course is live, but it’s also recorded if that works better for you.
Calls will take place on Tuesdays at 4pm PDT starting April 29th, taking place every other week until August 5th.
These calls will be recorded and available for replay if you can’t join us live!
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That’s okay! There are numerous ways you can participate in this course depending on what you’re comfortable with. You could…
Not join any live calls, and watch the recordings instead.
Only join calls when you’re feeling up for it.
Be off camera and silent during the group call.
Use the Zoom chat feature to participate without speaking aloud.
Be on camera and share your thoughts and questions with the group aloud.
All options are equally good with me - do what’s right for you :)
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The course aims to provide a supportive environment where you can explore your experience of attachment in relationships, and learn skills and practices to embody a more interdependent, secure relationship style. Each lesson is designed to be thorough, gentle, and directly applicable, making it accessible to absorb the material live or via watching the replay. The accompanying workbook serves as a valuable resource to help you integrate what you’re learning through practices and journal prompts.
The live group calls offer an opportunity to engage with me and other participants, allowing for shared experiences and collective growth. This aspect of the course adds a personal touch, as you will be part of a community of survivors who understand the journey you are on. As you progress, you will develop the tools necessary to cultivate and maintain healthy relationships without bypassing your lived experience.
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FOREVER!! You will have access to all the materials – the videos, workbook, and bonus exercises – forever through the course portal. Yay!
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This course is different from many other relationship resources out there because it is trauma-informed. As a trauma survivor, I know our “relationship goals” might be very different from others. The obstacles we face with trust, communication, boundaries, and triggers are different than others may face. This was made for trauma survivors, by a trauma survivor and certified trauma-informed coach, because I care about your ability to create safe & empowered relationships, no matter what you’ve been through in the past.
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I provide sliding-scale pricing for those who want to join The Art of Interdependence but face financial or systemic barriers. If you think this course could help you, please enroll at the sliding scale rate, no questions asked.
The full price of the course is $550 or $137.50/month and the sliding scale rate is $400 or $100/month. Payment plans are included for all pricing tiers. Early bird pricing is 20% off all pricing tiers and is available until April 15th with code EARLYBIRD.
All pricing tiers include:
8 live group calls for education and community
A workbook for each module of the course
3 months within my community membership, Blooming Together
Lifetime access to all course materials
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Due to the digital nature of the course, I do not issue refunds. Please be sure to read through all the details before purchasing to make sure it’s a good fit for you. If you’re still not sure, feel free to email me @ bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com and I’d be happy to answer any of your questions!
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Nope! While I am a bisexual cis woman in a relationship with a cis man, this course is here for anyone looking to have healthy and supportive relationships. The language throughout the course is intentionally non-gendered as much as possible in order to be inclusive of all those who desire help in the areas this course covers.
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Amazing! As a thank you for being a Blooming Relationships Student and to account for any overlap between the courses, you get 50% off the Art of Interdependence! Send me an email at bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com and I’ll send you the coupon code :)
Your role in life is not to sacrifice yourself for love while receiving crumbs of affection in return. You were always meant for interdependence.
Disclaimer: This course is an educational resource, and is in no way intended to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, or any other type of therapy, or medical advice. A trauma-informed coach is unable to diagnose any medical conditions; if this is a concern, I advise you to seek help from a Medical Professional, such as a licensed psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist. Results are not guaranteed and any actions you take, and the consequences thereof, whether real or imagined, are entirely your own. I accept no liability for anything that should arise from the use of the information on this site or the engagement of my services.