A toolkit for trauma survivors to get through the holidays with more safety and less shame.
Holiday Survival Guide
Tools, scripts, and practices for trauma survivors to lean on to
get through the holiday season with more support and less shame.
Let’s just keep it real right now:
the holiday season isn’t so jolly for everyone.
We’re “supposed” to love this time to the year.
Everywhere you look, people are celebrating, or talking about how much love this “magical” time of the year.
So what about when you don’t love it?
When the holidays hold no magic for you, but pain?
When life feels dull and grey, not sparkly and joyous?
In my experience, it is freaking LONELY.
And when shame pops up, the bleh feeling can transform into a sense of being so profoundly different than everyone else…
It SUCKS!
But if you’re reading this and relating, I feel you big time. I’ve been there!
I created the Holiday Survival Guide for us.
This Guide Is Here For You If…
you dread the holiday season everyone else seems to love
you’re going to a family gathering and aren’t sure how you’ll get through it
you’re estranged or no-contact and the holidays bring up guilt, grief, or doubt
you feel pressure to be happy, grateful, or “fine” when you’re not
you feel like trauma sets you apart from your loved ones and impacts how you show up at holiday functions
you feel exhausted by the holidays, even when nothing “bad” happens
you want to approach the holidays in a different way this year
you want to protect your peace without losing connection
I made this because I get it.
It’s been over 6 years now since I started working with trauma survivors as a certified trauma-informed coach.
You’re not the only one who struggles during the holidays! I do too.
One of my favorite things to do is take hard stuff I’ve been through and help others get through the same thing.
I strive to create resources so you don’t feel all alone with this. You got resources! You’ve got tools!
I created this toolkit with these intentions in mind.
The Holiday Survival Guide
is here to help you…
Unpack the “shoulds” about how you’re supposed to do the holiday
Respect your experience instead of shaming it
Move through overwhelm and overstimulation
Map your triggers and find ways to soothe
Regulate on your own and with supportive people
Set boundaries and honor your feelings
Ask for support instead of going it alone
Tend to grief and loneliness with care
What's Covered?
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What exactly is in this toolkit?
Watch: 6 short videos that cover the material
Write: in the __ page guided workbook
Use: boundary bingo sheet and your in-the-moment plan card
Practice: somatic and art guided practices for regulation and support
Here’s exactly what we are going to cover:
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Reclaim your emotional truth, instincts, and inner fire.
Anger is not a problem. It’s a compass. It shows you where you’ve been wronged or where something is out of alignment.
This week, we’ll gently explore:
what your anger has been trying to tell you
how anger is here to protect you
what happens when anger is suppressed
how to feel and express anger without fear, shame, or shutdown
You will leave Week 1 with a clearer sense of what your emotions are trying to tell you and a renewed trust in your internal guidance.
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Remember who you are beneath trauma and root into what matters to YOU.
Trauma often disconnects us from ourselves; this week rebuilds that connection.
You’ll explore:
the parts of your identity you’ve forgotten or buried
who you are at your core, beyond survival mode
what it feels like to act in alignment with your values
what truly matters to you (vs what you were told should matter)
By the end of Week 2, you’ll feel more anchored, clear, and self-aware.
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Begin speaking your truth and taking up space imperfectly and courageously.
This week you’ll learn to:
communicate your needs without apology
uphold boundaries that support your healing
take up space in relationships, work, and daily life
speak from your authentic identity rather than fear or fawning
We’ll explore what makes advocating difficult (fear of harm, past experiences, perfectionism), and practice new ways of speaking up that feel accessible and values-aligned.
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Step into your next chapter with alignment, agency, and hope.
Healing is not about forgetting the past.
It’s about creating a life where you feel safe, connected, purposeful, and true to yourself.This final week is all about expansion:
trauma-informed goal-setting
redefining success in a way that feels gentle and sustainable
identifying your desires, dreams, and next season of growth
creating small, aligned steps toward the life you want
You’ll discover what it means to move forward softly, with clarity, intention, and self-compassion.
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Student Testimonials
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Student Testimonials •
This is my first time hosting Reclaim + Renew, but it’s not my first rodeo. Here’s what students of my group program, Coming Home to Yourself, have to say:
The main ways this course helped me are…
“ This course provided a safe space to express myself without judgment, engage with my healing journey, and for active reflection, while also being accountable to my authentic self in a space safe. I learned that my authentic self can be unperfect, and that's okay. Showing up for myself, in whichever way I need is being authentic. I became aware of my internal dialogue and core beliefs, plus was given tools to feel empowered to change them.” - Padma P.
“This course showed me that healing in the context of community is something that's really good for me. I learned a lot about my masks, my responses to trauma, and begun to realize why I have those masks and responses. I've become more compassionate, curious, and patient toward myself as I heal. I feel like authenticity is a lot more realistic to me now...I'm starting to understand my authentic self better and it's exciting. I feel like I'm starting to come home to myself. :)” -LB
“The understanding of the barriers to connecting with yourself and best of all the opposites of those things, so that when I notice judgment come up for example, I'm not just aware of it anymore, I also know what might help to soothe it. I also feel like the course has helped me to accept all the parts of my trauma that are part of who I am and to stop punishing myself for them.” -NJB
“By feeling connected in real time to others on their healing journey. I could show up exactly how I was in the moment without the need to be perfect, prepared, visible on camera or ready to share out loud with the group.” - Megan B.
My favorite aspects of the course were...
“I cannot choose what was more helpful: the group calls where I felt so heard and had the honour of hearing others' stories, the workbooks and their thoughtful questions that truly led me through the process, or the lesson videos where I learned words, processes, and concepts that resonate and make so much sense to me. Altogether, I felt like this was a super well-rounded and balanced way of having different methods of accessing and processing this incredible course.” -NJB
“The guided conversations, talking about certain topics with questions as guidelines and hearing what other people say, relating to each other and supporting each other. To put experiences in words and share it with each other.” - Jil E.
“- Listening to people share their journeys and be true to themselves (it was empowering)
- Emmy providing insights on what it's like to be someone who personally experiences these things
- Lecture videos I can watch at my own time and pace” - Padma P.
“The welcoming, no pressure, vulnerable, & insightful live group calls.” - LB
“Getting to hear about other people’s journeys. It was enlightening to hear first-hand accounts of other people facing similar struggles to my own, yet under completely different circumstances. A very supportive and attentive group. I also love that there are workbooks and prompts for me to work through and ponder at any time. Intentional work like this has been so crucial to my healing and each question Emmy provided has allowed me to discover something new about myself.” - Mykal W.
Holiday Week Pricing Ends 11/30
Grab the guide for $47 or 2 payments of $29 until midnight on 11/30
Please note that all sales are final and refunds will not be given due to the digital nature of the guide.
About Emmy
I am a certified trauma-informed coach with over 300 hours of training in topics related to complex trauma, somatic work, and beyond. I’m also a survivor who cares deeply about other survivors.
My mission in life and business is to empower trauma survivors to own their truth, shift away from shame, and move forward toward a brighter future - without ignoring or “getting over” the past.
In my work, I take a shame-free approach to healing by focusing on how our bodies are impacted by trauma. This helps me and my clients find solutions for moving forward without getting stuck in cycles of self-hatred, doubt, or blame that keep us repeating the cycle of trauma.
I'm so glad you're here!
Frequently Asked Questions
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Frequently Asked Questions ○
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Yes indeed! Let’s spend April together. We will meet Tuesdays at 4pm PDT starting April 7th and ending April 28th. All calls will be recorded if you can’t make it live!
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It does not, but you are welcome to book coaching calls with Emmy if you're interested. Book a free discovery call here if desired!
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All course material will be hosted on Podia, including journal prompts, slideshows, and live call recordings. You will be able to access all of these indefinitely; there is no expiration date.
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Have any questions or want to make sure it's a good fit for you? Email me at bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com - I'm happy to help!
You’re not broken if the holiday season isn’t the “most wonderful time of the year” for you.
I made this toolkit to help you feel more prepared, more supported, and less alone this year.
Disclaimer: Trauma-informed Coaching is a service that provides personal coaching to individuals and/or groups, but it is in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, or any other type of therapy, or medical advice. A Coach is unable to diagnose any medical conditions; if this is a concern, I advise you to seek help from a Medical Professional, such as a licensed psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist. Results are not guaranteed and any actions you take, and the consequences thereof, whether real or imagined, are entirely your own. I accept no liability from anything that should arise from the use of the information on this site or the engagement of my services.